i like hip hop. i like doug.
my man kish moneeeey is so awesome. check it out! haha
The End
Topic of Interest: GoodBye SLo
The Time has come. My life at cal poly is winding down. I have finally made it to the time where a count down can start, and where as people say I can see the light at the end of the tunnel… (at least for my Cal Poly career that is). My past four years have pretty much been a blur, but it has definitely been a part of my life that I will always remember.
Its kind of all so surreal that my time here at cal poly is ending. im leaving a place that i called home for 4+ years, to places that i so comfortably went to on a daily basis and took for granted, and to a community in which i felt became my family up here in SLO. Just today i left Quickly and closed up shop saying bye to the good times of working and to the darkness and silence of the lone boba stop in town. I got to see plenty of changes around here like garden grill turning into Metro Station, the bringing of CHIPOTLE, the tearing down of the rec center, and the friends coming and going. There was even the bittersweet feeling of attending my last epic and coming to closure of a part of my life that helped me grow to know God and a part of my life where i’ve found some amazing friendships that have gotten me through these years at poly. I’ve gotten to enjoy the wonderful scenes that slo had to offer whether it be the shores of pismo beach or the top of bishops peak.
Just looking back at these fabulous times there were definitely a lot of trends that took place, some more short lived than others. Been able to develop traditions with close friends, getting caught up with tv shows, finding myself spending my time playing settlers in the wee hours of the day, pulling all nighters cramming for tests or enjoying a nice game of L4D during finals week. There were wonderful times of pulling all nighters chatting with friends, staying in slo over the summer and going on adventures, finding summer love, finding sweet hangout spots, making music videos on facebook, chillin at the beach, travelling to japan for missions with the bestie, wine-tasting, overlooking slo at the hill with the girlfriend, enjoying the crispness of the clean air, dancing downtown, making impersonations “you knowww”, watching amazing bands like relient k, switchfoot, and augustana, enjoying the downtown scene as i turned 21, and just hanging out with the peeps. I even got to see one of my best friends try and hop over a fence and fall flat on his butt. good times.
Lately the biggest trend has been musical-ish tv shows such as glee and the sing off. How cool would that be if your life could just be all song and dance!?!? in light of me graduating i totally thought that this would be the sweetest thing after graduating. check it out.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgVNgYXFi_Q&feature=related. obviously joseph gordon levitt was dancing for another reason.. (watch 500 days of summer if you havent. pretty solid movie) BUT Seriously… how sweet would it be to just come out of mott gym after graduating and doing this dance on perimeter?!? haha
Now as the countdown reaches zero, i have started to reflect on all the memories and the first day i stood on campus wondering what my next four years would be like. and as i look back i have no regrets and no doubts, knowing i’ve become better… i have begun to pack up my room and stuffed my car of memories and belongings that i cherish and hold dear to my heart, which now shows an emptiness of a place i once called home. i have remembered and embraced all the memories, all the friends, all the mistakes, all the laughs, all the tears, and all the friendships and wave farewell to the city of slo as i take my bow on center stage with my degree in kinesiology and take my last drive home along the coast of central california. its been fun, but the journey has only just begun!
I will remember the friends, i will remember the great food places, i will not forget the great laughes and memories, i will remember the highs and the lows, i will remember what god has provided for me in these four years at slo. Thanks to everyone who has been a part of my life. you have all had some sort of positive impact in my life and some more so than others. i will miss slo and the people i have gotten close to. I must now say goodbye to those closest to me (hopefully we stay in contact) and move on towards where God is leading me.
flow through the delicate slo. peace.
Justin
so true. good stuff stephen.
I have come to the conclusion that every girl out there subconsciously wants either one of six types of guys. The charmer (aka James Bond), the jerk (aka JC and I am not inferring that every woman wants you, you got lucky), the swag (aka Jay-Z), the stud (aka Kobe), the romantic (aka Shakespeare),…
DTR
Topic of Interest: Defining the Relationship
I love this topic. some people say its not needed. some think that its awkward. some adore the whole idea of pulling a girl aside and having a set arranged time to talk about each other’s feelings for one another. The jitters and nerves begin to build up, and you begin to have butterflies fluttering around in your stomach. you dont know the outcome, but no matter what, you’re crossing your fingers, hoping for something magical to happen. Iono how else to explain it but the buildup of confronting that special someone just throws a person all off. But i think i love this topic the most because this is where real men are made. their true character comes out through all the awkwardness as they prepare themselves for a battle of love and emotion. hahah
Its interesting too to see how a lot of people have never even heard of the term “DTR”. For those of you that don’t know DTR stands for Defining The Relationship. maybe its christian term or something. This is the time where a guy and girl are at a point in their relationship where they want to express how they feel to the other and pursue a dating relationship and take it to the next step above being friends. Usually the guy is the one that has to initiate..But no matter the difference, i always get a kick about hearing stories of “how the DTR went”. And i think its funny how guys go about with their DTR. sometimes you can just tell by the glow in the smile of the guy, how the talk went or by the small tears rolling down the face of the guy, of how it feels to be rejected. You hear stories of how the guy choked and couldnt pull out the charm under pressure and words just couldnt form into sentences, or that you began to draw blanks of how to express their feelings, or how the smooth talking woo’ed the girl, or even just that there was a lot of miscommunication between the two sending signals to each other and what you thought were sparks flying between you two, actually wasn’t.
Now i’m no professional analyst of how a DTR should go and i wouldn’t want people to DTR the way i do. i say just go with what feels best for you and be confident in who you are. (HOT tip for guys….girls love confidence, and as much as some might disagree with that, they all want their men to be strong and confident in some capacity) but it is interesting to see how some guys actually go about doing it. After talking to some people about DTR’s and what not i’ve compiled some of the more memorable ones.
1. The Hypothetical: Now i can’t really understand the thought process of this because let me tell you, girls are not stupid. they know when you’re flirting with them, they probably know if you like them, and they will definitely know (95% of the time) if you guys are about to have a DTR. guys usually aren’t too sly with this one. but no matter, this one friend of mine still has the confidence and courage to pull out a hypothetical situation when having a DTR and i give him props. He goes the route in which he wants to meet up with the girl for a DTR, and nonchalantly asks for advice about what he should do with a girl he likes, when in fact that hypothetical girl is ACTUALLY the girl he is talking with. He asks questions to feel out the situation and i guess hope for clues to see where she is at in the situation. good luck with that one. so far i’ve seen it go 0/1.
2. God Card: ahhh the infamous God card. this usually includes talking about the spiritual walks of one another and hoping to go deep and having the guy think that they’re on a deeper level or have some type of deeper question. and when the girl is most vulnerable, then the feelings can be poored out, or it goes something like that. They talk about how they have been praying about the pursuit of this friendship and how they can lead the girl in life and in their walks. Their hope seems to be that they can show the girl that they can provide and take care of the woman, physically and spiritually. It seems that they want to show that they have that spiritual connection and that it’s enough to start a relationship and that they have spent a lot of time and thought into the girl and how they can work together.
3. All out technique: This is kind of a no fear tactic that i’ve seen guys do. they come right out with their thoughts and just straight up tell the girl that they have feelings for her and that they want to pursue a relationship. Definitely not beating it around the bush or starting with small talk, i can tell you that much. maybe they just want it to be quick and over with, or maybe show that there is a sense of confidence in them that the girl can’t deny. Or maybe there’s just no other words for a guy to say and want to just say it like it is.
These are just a few of different ways some men i’ve talked to have DTR’ed with women in the past. I can’t say for myself that i have used any of these techniques myself, but my two cents are that you should just be yourself and be confident in who you are. forget about what might happen afterwards if the conversation goes south, forget about how the friendship might be different after you DTR with her. Forget everything and just go for that girl that makes you happy. i mean cause seriously… you dont want to regret being too scared to talk to the girl that might be the future mrs. or hate yourself for not even trying. Show some feeling, try to express how you’re feeling, compliment the girl, show her why she is special to you. prove to her that you are a MAN that will take care of her and that will love her like a princess and work through everything no matter what the situation is. Show that you know the girl. Be vulnerable. and hopefully it all goes well. it has for me in the past =). But most of all, make sure your intentions are in the right place. every girl deserves to be treated with respect and deserves a guy that will take care of her.
There will always be a dozen different ways to talk to a girl, and most will be memorable and if anything an experience that you can learn from. But stick to who you are and do what you gotta do.
Flow Through The Delicate. Peace.
Justin
“i want a confident guy, but not a cocky guy” - every girl to ever live.
i recently was talking to a friend who got labeled as a “cocky” guy, he wasnt really sure why, possibly it was because he talked a lot of smack and joked around, or maybe it was because he would always win with a smug smile…
A little misunderstanding..
Topic of Interest: Playa saaaaaay whaat?!?
Yes i know.. the first thing you think of when you hear the word playa is… the beach. your spanish kind of overtakes your english and you can only imagine the golden sunset and the beautiful image of waves crashing along the ocean floors. hahah jk jk that’s not what im talking about.
Its always been a little funny the way people interpret the meaning of being a player. i’ve been getting some input and was kind of inspired to write my thoughts about this topic, not only cause its an interesting topic i want people to think about but also because i’ve been stung by the same label. When i was labeled like that. i had no idea what to do. but now… i blog. haha jk but seriously how would you take it if you just got into a relationship and everyone is telling the girl to watch out because you’re a player!?!? especially from people that you barely even know!! and i feel like i should voice some of these things cause why you might ask? cause to most of you, YOU DONT KNOW MEE!
now dont get me wrong. in a non-christian world, the male species may tend to strive for this ultimate “calling”/goal, but in a christian setting its like a curse/cuss word that is forbidden and highly looked down upon. The term “christian playa” is an oxymoron that no one wants to be labeled as. and seriously… what does that even mean?
Sidenote: yes i guess at times, guys love having that pride of saying “yeah i can get that girl” or “she wants me” or “look at all these girls around me!” … and sometimes maybe they feel that they have to overcompensate and it makes them feel good about themselves..but maybe just maybe there are also good guys out there who have the right intentions. so all i’m trying to say is that there are some great guys out there and don’t be too quick to judge that all guys are bad… plus in the defense of some guys… they are just joking… this has nothing to do with the girl* and its all just guy talk.
*i would hope that even though that they may be joking, that they themselves treat the girls with respect and hopefully no girl takes it as tricking them, devaluing them, or making it seem as if they are just some type of property that needs to be had. its just guy talk.. yes guys can be dumb sometimes. but its who we are and its all about the testosterone. =)
and for a reference (since it seems to be like the thing to do) i will use a wonderful picture as an illustration…
ahhhh the go to picture of girls surrounding the hot muscular cool guy looking like it “aint no thaaang” (thanks for illustrating stephen… definitely helps out my blog a bit.) …. and btw.. he really wants a white girlfriend if you couldnt tell….
but anyways back to the point… what is a player and what characteristics define being a player? in your mind is a player someone who has had a lot of girlfriends? is a player someone who is really friendly with girls? what is your definition of a player?? well no matter, in my opinion i see a player as someone who views girls as just a game and is someone known as a “womanizer”. And i kind of take it a little more literally, like when you hear that a guy is “playing” a girl, then you think that he’s being deceptive, just wants something physical, and might even have another girl on the side.
yeah do i like girls? of course. what guy doesnt? but i have only one special girl in my heart that i care about and there’s nothing or no one thats gonna change my mind about pursuing her. do i get along with girls? yeah sure. maybe i’m a little flirty.. sorry. but don’t judge me. don’t hate on me… you dont even know me! is it my personality that makes me look like a player? ummm iono. here’s a question to answer that question. am i at fault for getting along with girls and being confident in who i am? am i a player because i’ve probably had more girlfriends than other guys? umm no. did you know my intention with each girl or what happened? then dont judge.
everyone is of course entitled to their own opinion. and hey everyone does things differently. for me personally i had to go through a lot of hurt and pain, broken relationships, and different experiences to finally find the girl that i want to spend the rest of my life with. so decide for yourself. but if you’re one of those who hope to find that special someone on the first try goodluck.. and i hope it works out cause its a hard thing to come by.
flow through the delicate. payce.
jc
The League
Topic of Interest: chameleon lover
Thanks to the wonderful and hilarious show called the league, i have been inspired to write a blog about the chameleon lover. I feel that this topic probably relates more to the romantic type guys who are in a keen search for love and romance or maybe just for those that are desperate and in search of not being alone. and i guess the biggest question is … what is a chameleon lover??
So i think a lot of times this whole thing about a chameleon lover really goes unnoticed. But the chameleon lover is one who has a certain crush/love interest in another but doesnt have anything in common with them, so they begin to pick up the hobbies of the person that they like. But it also goes a step further because i think that it comes to be a part where the person actually changes their personality to reflect or imitate that of their crush.
Maybe this will paint a better picture…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5zvzt7p7jQ&feature=related
Their infatuation of the girl that they so choose to like takes over their life. You throw aside your pride and are willing to do whatever it takes to not only impress the girl but to also give this sense of commonality between the two of you to show her that you guys actually have SOMETHING in common! whoaa! hold on there for juuuust a sec.. seriously guys?!? cmon… no girl is ever worth that.. yes girls i just said that.. Seriously folks just do your thing and be confident in what you have and you’ll find that special someone that one day you can like my friend rivera says “treat like a princess”
As most moms would always say “just be yourself” =) haha
sorry for the bad quality but its all i could find… A great reference from a great movie. Just Friends.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PiiBDacCvxI (and if you haven’t seen this movie?!? shoot. watch it.)
sidenote to my good friend russ: seeeeee buddy??! i didnt make fun of you for being a chameleon lover and your insane love? … okay more like a fettish with dogs juuust cause your girl loves dogs. haha love you. btw… a dog calendar for christmas is coming your way.. with a little something something extra in it =)
flow through the delicate. peace.
Jc
